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It’s not just a friend ship, it’s a friend galleon.

Life is an ever-changing organism. It’s almost never how it was the day before. Small shifts happen continuously, most of the time they are on such a small scale that they don’t really affect daily life. There is, however, those paradigm shifts that seem to really throw us off our game. These are usually due to a major event, but just like earthquakes there is usually tension and micro-movements that result in the catastrophe. I believe an integral part of these breakdowns or epiphanies is to look at all the time leading up to them. There is probably minute events that get overlooked due to the hectic nature of life. Some of these can lead to information that can help prevent future problems.

Why bring any of this up? Mostly because I am going through such events. I have come to question many of the friendships I have. It’s not any one friendship, but an all encompassing look at how I perceive friendship; my expectations and the expectations of me. As I have been mulling this over the past week or so I have found I really am expecting more out of people. I have no qualms about this either. We (My peers and I) are getting to be full-fledged adults; some have already taken full time jobs. With new found independence comes even more responsibility, as much as some of us hate that thought. This comes to friendship too. Why shouldn’t I be able to rely on supposed friends? If they care about you they should want to help out in any way they can, at least by my new definition.

Another large portion of the new “grading scale” is the equality of such a relationship. I am largely over with one-sided friendships. Both people should be contributing. Of course there will be times when the scale might not be exactly 50/50, and that’s to be expected; everyone has low points. Those low points are precisely when you should expect your friends to rally. I think everyone has some experience with a friendship where you just feel like you are being taken for granted and you have to make all the effort even to remain in communication. Those are not friendships, they are shams that need to be let go. If a person truly cares for you they will make the effort.

I think a major point in my rethinking is due to a heightened sense of self-worth. I have had fairly low self esteem throughout most of my life. Not in everything, but when it came to things like personal relations I was very weak and would basically play the whipping boy. A relationship where people treat you as inferior is complete bullshit and not worth any bit of time out of your finite life.

With all this being said I would like to clarify a few points. This might sound rather rough, but I think my tone throughout the article actually makes it appear worse than it is. I don’t want friends to jump through hoops, I would just like some equality. I am also not looking to be attached at the hip. The main thing is to be respectful and conscientious. I don’t think it’s a tall order to fill, and I would think you would expect the same from me.

This is tangentially related, but people it’s important! I think winter has taken its toll because people are starting to get pretty nasty. I don’t care how busy you are, how stressed your life, or how bad you think you have it. It’s not an excuse to be mean. Everyone is a human being and deserves your kindness. So, you had a bad day? Save it until you get home, throw on a smile, and be nice!

Coming soon:
“Picture of the Week” and the return of “Track of the Week”

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Back…sort of

Hello Everyone! It feels good to be back. Well kind of back. I am using blogger right now while my server is in limbo. With school and surmounting problems, I have not been able to get my web server back online since I formatted it a while ago. Apache, MySQL, and PHP are not playing well together and causing me such a headache. For now all blog posts will be on here. I have no backlog because for the time being all my old posts are in a MySQL backup file. No need to worry though, they are all safe and sound, just jumbled. Any posts that are on here will show up on my when I get my blog restored, whenever that may be. Honestly, I am getting pretty fed up with the whole thing. It’s on a Windows server which is strange because I use Linux as my main OS and Windows as my server OS, that’s pretty bass ackwards. Next chance I get I might dump the Windows all together and give my pal Linux a try. I need to find out if I can remote into it like I can into Windows. GUI remote not just SSH. I am sorry I was raised on GUI and I am try to ween myself off of it but for now that’s my reasoning behind using Windows for the server.

OK, so nerdy stuff out of the way let’s get down to the crux of the matter. I need to blog, it’s an inherent characteristic of mine. I need to chronical my thoughts. It’s my way of letting it out, and with no blog I have been having to bottle these thoughts up. It’s not fun for me. With that also being said, I will now start with normal thoughts on life, as I usually do.

I overhear a lot of things throughout the day. I drop some heavy eaves when I am around groups of people. I don’t really try to, but if they are talking loudly, I do them a service and listen because they are obviously trying to let the whole world know their story at that volume. Lately, the general trend of conversation is to complain; complain about so many things. Little, tiny, insignificant things. This past year I have really grown emotionally on many ways. One of those ways has been to put things into perspective and not to “sweat the small stuff”, to quote many others. People get upset over the most mundane of things. Things that shouldn’t really phase people in the grand scheme of things. I hear people getting upset about the most trivial of things. For example, my boyfriend didn’t hang out with me this one time out of the week and I have to focus all my energy on that fact; the same applies to guys as well, just swap boyfriend for girlfriend, or my least favorite whining, “I don’t have a significant other.” You should never define yourself by another person. You should always retain individuality. I can’t tell you how much I don’t want to hang out with someone who is so steeped in someone else that they can’t function without them. Be proud to be single! Experience things only a single person can. Explore yourself more, embellish your character. Be independent!

It’s aggravating because with all that is going on in the world, not just the bad, but with the incredible good and fantastic strides humanity is making, how can this be even considered a large life-altering problem? I have noticed I have turned from a staunch realist to an optimist. I will say I do not have my head fully up in the clouds, but it is starting to get foggy. I can say I am an optimist with my feet firmly planed on the ground. I know there is multiple ways to look at things, but I just find always dwelling on negatives and cant’s just leaves you with a gloomy feeling. Why would you want to spend your time that way. I have found myself spending less and less time with negative people because to be frank they just are not worth it. I would rather be spending my limited time with people who are upbeat and don’t have such a nihilist approach.

I read a good except today in an away message talking about how on a tombstone they print the dates of your birth and death with a dash between the years (e.g. 1945-1997). The start and the end are the least important part of the phrase though. The dash is your life. The dash encompasses your achievements and shortcoming, your values and your experiences. The dash represents your time here on Earth. It really gave me a lot of perspective on the finiteness of life. No matter how immortal you think you are, as a human being you will inevitably die. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing or a looming, dark cloud. It just…is. It’s something that will happen. With that in mind, why spend your life being negative or letting small disturbances ruin a day. You only have so many, so why not make the most of every one of them. I am not talking about making everyday drip with adrenaline. I am just talking about not wasting days. If you want to start doing something. Do it. Don’t be weighed down with reasons why not. This also doesn’t mean days of rest and relaxation are not living every day to its fullest. Those are crucial experiences, too.

The overarching theme here is don’t let life pass you by. Don’t regret moments in time. Take advantage of opportunities and make strides toward your goals everyday. Even if they are baby steps or even embryo movements. Try not to let the small things effect you so much. Life if full of possibilities if you open up your arms and embrace it. You are the only one that can define the dash. Make sure yours is everything you wanted it to be.

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Philosophy Purdue School

Wallet Hacking 101

teh books
The new fall school session is here and in full swing. There seems to be more people on campus than I remember from previous semesters, but admittedly it’s probably because I am riding a bike as apposed to walking. I am super excited for this semester because I am taking classes that really pertain to my major. It only took 3 years for it to happen… Anyway the classes for the Purdue Fall ’08 semester include:

  • ECE 201: Linear Circuit Analysis
  • ECE 364: Software Engineering Tools
  • MA 266: Ordinary Differential Equations
  • ECE 270: Introduction to Digital Design
  • JPNS 301: Japanese Level V

I am definitely excited for Digital Design, it’s learning the stuff I got into the major for, computer hardware design. My hardest class this semester is probably going to be Japanese, surprisingly. Five classes. Three of them engineering, one math, and one a foreign language and the foreign language is going to be the difficult one. Oh well, at least all the people who only took Japanese because they had to take a foreign language are gone and the people who actually want to learn it remain. I have had a resurgence to try to learn Japanese. I will admit that towards the end of 202 I was getting really burnt out. I just didn’t have the passion I once did. Luckily that was very temporary because I am actually probably more into it than when I started 201. Hooray!

Well that was kind of just a life update, but the real intention of this blog remains to be seen. I have been compiling a list not only for myself, but to share with others. Everyone knows the cliche stereotype that college students are super poor and basically subsist on ramen noodles and keystone light. Well, I think that goes a little over the deep end, but money is definitely tight in college (at least for me). Anyway, the following is a list to help not just college students, but everyone squeeze every single penny out of your dollar and maybe even be a little more eco friendly doing it too.

Finance Management

This is probably the biggest frivolous money loss out of the whole list. People tend to (myself included) know how much money they have around pay days, but fail to remember how much of that they use between the paychecks or deposits. This leads to one of baking’s biggest annoyances which is overages. This can cost you lots of cash and it can happen quick. IF you happen to overdraft the bank usually ends up charging you between $20-$30 in addition to the money you spent that you didn’t have. If it happens because of a check then you have to pay the people you gave a bum check to another $20-$30. The worst is when it happens because of a late charge such as getting a cup of coffee. You better enjoy it because that was just a $33 dollar cup of coffee. The best advice I can give is know how much you have at all times, write it down, balance it out as you spend. If you have a smartphone like me, make a spreadsheet and just have it subtract from you total every time you enter an amount. If you have an auto-pay bill system, make sure you know when these charges will come through. Also, an excellent way to check your balance at any given time is to sign up for text banking. I know it’s not offered everywhere, but Chase offers it and it is a good reference when you are wondering if you can really afford that Star Wars figurine of Lando Calrissian.

Make a budget! If you can stay within a budget you are never in the dark about what you can and can’t afford and how much you spend on certain items. A great tool for this is Mint. It is a free online service that can tap into your bank accounts and monitor your spending habits. It can alert you by email or text if you exceed your budget. Go a month and average out what you spend on food, coffee, movies, etc. Even just looking at what you spend on certain things can sometimes curtail the habit.

How to Dine Out on a Dime

People like to eat out, I know I do. The problem with that is that it often times replaces cooking at home all together. I am not trying to make a case for cooking at home save the expense. It is an amazingly large amount cheaper to eat at home than go out and grab a bite. I feel that actually going out and eating with friends is never really about the eats as much as it is the socializing. This is a pretty easy thing to do, but if you know a bunch of friends are going out to eat, just eat about 20 minutes before you leave. You will not be hungry or tempted by the menu or your fellow guests’ meals. Just order a coke or better yet a glass of water. Depending on the setting you can save $8-$15 and you still get to hang out and joke around. Depending on the frequency of your dining excursions this number can be quite a bit of money saved.

Textbooks

The second most expensive upfront cost for college students is textbooks. They can range anywhere from $30-$200+ Chances are you have probably hit the higher number at least once. Sure you can buy used books but those only tend to be $20 dollars cheaper which is a total racquet if you ask me, but that is for another day. You have probably heard about that buying your textbooks online is much cheaper, but have you actually taken the time to do it? It really can save you hundreds of dollars. An example is this semester I have a book that new is $130 and used is $110. I purchased it for $60 online, that is $40! The best thing is just to go to the book store and check your classes. Write down the author, edition, and ISBN. As long as all those things match even if the cover art varies, it’s the same book.

Here is a list of some of the best cheap book sites:

Half.com

Abebooks.com

Technology

Technology is an integral part of the modern college students day and having everything in working order can really be a plus. The problem is that sometimes getting that to happen may mean some serious $$ for you, unless you follow my tips.

Most college students enter college with a new or fairly new laptop or desktop, and they are usually pretty happy with it, with time the feel fades. You see others new and shiny toys and suddenly yours is pretty clunky and unable to perform how you want it to. All your applications take longer than they used to and even sometimes you may get the dreaded Blue Screen of Death providing of course you are on Windows. A new computer is not the answer though. This is the biggest misnomer I know of. You can definitely spruce up that old computer with out spending hundreds to thousands on a new one. Upgrading your ram is probably the easiest way to get a speed boost. It is very easy to install even for the non tech savvy and it usually costs much MUCH cheaper than shelling out 1000 clams. A good site to find out which ram is good for you is Crucial. Another way to speed things up is to format and reinstall the Operating System. Granted this is sometimes quite involves so maybe have a knowledgeable friend do it, but you will notice a speed increase almost immediately. If you are really feeling adventurous try you hand at a low resource operating system like Xubuntu. That leads into my next topic.

Software

Software is why we use our computers right? Sometimes this can be very pricey and may be overkill for our tasks. My answers to this are in two forms. First, most universities offer discount software and substantial price cuts so I would first check with what your’s has to offer. The second is something I have been preaching to people for a long time, open source. But Matt, what does open source mean? It is basically software that has all the code that has been written freely available for people to use and change, what this means to you is absolutely free software. These are usually a giant community effort so they products are of very professional quality. Some notable replacements are:

Open Office – Microsoft Office

Gimp – Adobe Photoshop

Ubuntu Linux – Microsoft Windows

Thunderbird w/ Lightning Extension – Microsoft Outlook

MySql – Oracle

Inkscape -Adobe Illustrator

Octave – MATLAB

These can save hundreds to thousands of dollars based on which software you are replacing.

If I may go back to the hardware aspect. You don’t always need the newest things out there. How many versions of iPod are out there now? 6? You know there are people who upgrade every generation. Don’t be that person. If your device still works as intended, keep using it. I remember when I upgraded my old iPod for a video iPod. Yeah you know how convenient it is to watch video on a 2″ screen, it isn’t. Don’t get sucked in by gimmicks. Evaluate it’s uses and then decide if you need it.

Slingbox

Most people are going to pay for internet. Almost everyone unless you are leaching off a neighbor, but in addition to this most people pay for some kind of cable channel package. Save some dough per year by picking up a slingbox. This is only beneficial if you know someone with a high-speed connection and cable tv, parents or relatives mostly. Anyway this device when implemented will let you stream cable through the internet and on your computer. This way you are paying for internet alone and letting someone else take the TV bill hit. Not only does this let you get “free” cable, but it is accessible anywhere in the world there is an internet connection.

Skype

I can’t speak highly enough about this wondrous piece of software. It is truly a giant money saver. This is especially useful if you are studying abroad. It is basically like an internet telephone. If you pay a monthly or yearly fee you can even call regular phones. It is great for long distance calls. If you want to use it free just have whoever you want to talk to download and configure it.

Shopping That is Easy on the Bank Account

You need to buy something, but it is kinda obscure or pricey in stores. The best place to get anything practically is eBay. I don’t feel I have to link eBay. If you are unaware of eBay please stop living under a rock. It is the most frequented online auction site, but it’s not all auctions. It has a Buy It Now option which is basically just you paying a predetermined price. You can find loads and loads of things and very reasonable prices on it. If you are afraid of getting ripped off, eBay and PayPal have a very good policy for reimbursement if it actually does take place. Don’t be afraid.

Craigslist is like an informal eBay. This guy is the one who shows up to a wedding with a tuxedo shirt on. It is a very basic site where people post things they are selling. Like an online classifieds. This works with people in your general area and it’s for meet and pick up. There are no protection policies for craigslist so don’t give out credit cards or anything, pay with cash or check and meet up with them. Very good site though.

Health and Fitness

Bike! Pick up a bike and start riding. It is definitely faster than walking and uses no gas. This is very eco friendly and money conscious. It also is quite healthy for you as well. That is three reasons, how come you are not biking yet? The biggest thing this does is motivate you not to start up the car. Never use a car to go short distances when walking or a bike will suffice. This may seem like little things that don’t matter, but it adds up. Not only are you wasting gas, but you are telling to world. I can’t walk two feet to the coffee shop on campus because I am just the lazy. Have fun with your deteriorating health!

Start exercising, and eating healthy. This may not seem immediate financial savings, but the benefits do come through. Every time you miss a doctor’s visit because you avoided sickness while all your lazy bones co-workers or classmates are sick because their body isn’t up to par that is tons of cash right there. No only will this increase longevity, but it will increase energy and if you live longer and can get more done, you are definitely going to be able to enjoy all that money you made and saved.

Utilities

Showering may not seem like a big money waster, but water and heating that water does cost money. Try the Navy Shower. I am currently in the process of doing this. Just wet yourself down, turn off the water, clean and scrubs, then rinse yourself off. Not only does this drastically cut down on water, but it probably will get you out of the shower sooner and save you time.

Heating a house or an apartment over the winter can cost lots of dough as much as $100 spike just for keeping yourself warm. The thing is that sometimes you don’t need all that heat you are putting out. Try to keep the heat to a minimum. If you get cold just throw on a sweater and some slippers. I am proud to say that I never turned on my heat once all last winter and it definitely did keep the cost down.

I hope some of these helo you guys out, if I think of anymore I will be sure to post them. Also, any comments with either sucess or failure, or even added money saving idea’s would be awesome. Thanks for reading!